About
Meet Patricia Evans
over 24 years
of experience.
Patricia Evans is an internationally recognized Interpersonal Communications Specialist. Drawing upon research of more than thirty thousand cases of verbally abusive relationships, she speaks and conducts workshops throughout the country. Founder of the Evans Interpersonal Communications Institute, now, EICI, Inc., where she offers workshops and training programs, Patricia Evans has single-handedly brought the subject of verbal abuse to the forefront of American consciousness.
Newsweek commended her first powerful book on the subject, The Verbally Abusive Relationship: How to Recognize it and How to Respond (1992). Expanded edition (1996), as “A groundbreaking new book.” Click to learn more with links to buy on Amazon. Her books are available throughout the US, Canada, England, Mexico, Germany, France and in the Chinese Language.
faq
What is verbal abuse?
Verbal abuse creates emotional pain and mental anguish. It is a lie told to you or about you. Generally, verbal abuse defines people, telling them what they are, what they think, their motives, and so forth. The best way to deal with a verbally abusive relationship, whether you are the target of verbal abuse or the perpetrator, is to find out everything you can about verbally abusive relationships and their dynamics. Usually one person is blaming, accusing, even name calling, and the other is defending and explaining.
How can I learn more and get help?
There is a lot of information on this site. Please don’t miss the links above and throughout the site. As you find out about verbal abuse, you can find out what is ‘wrong’ with people who are verbally abusive, and what you might do about it. A phone consultation pulls it all together in just 1 hour. Please call 925 934 5972 for details.
I hope that if you suspect verbal abuse in your relationship, that you will read all five of my books. Each is a part of the picture.
What are some signs of verbal abuse?
Since the target of verbal abuse is often blamed, ignored, or yelled at, s/he may have difficulty recognizing just what is going on in the relationship. Most people targeted by verbal abuse try to explain to the abuser why what they’ve just heard is not true or not okay. They explain themselves because they believe the perpetrator is rational and can hear them and the relationship will then get better. Then they usually hear more verbal abuse, for instance, “You’re too sensitive.” At that point they don’t usually realize that they have just been defined, and, therefore, verbally abused again.
Since the target of verbal abuse is often blamed, ignored, or yelled at, s/he may have difficulty recognizing just what is going on in the relationship.
News and Events
Now Published in Spanish!
Now in Spanish: El abuso verbal en las relaciones (The Verbally Abusive Relationship): Como reconocerlo y como responder (Spanish Edition) (Spanish) Paperback now available on Amazon.com!
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Peer Acknowledgments
Newsweek
Newsweek declared, The Verbally Abusive Relationship: How to Recognize it and How to Respond , -"A groundbreaking new book."
David L. Quinby, Professor Emeritus
Human kind urgently needs this, both on an individual and a collective level. Nothing else ... 
Workshop for Therapists
360 professionals attended and 99% said, "Yes, we would recommend this training to our colleagues!" 
SF Examiner Book Review
"Riveting" ~ Keay Davidson, San Francisco Examiner 
Dr. Richard Jamison
"Enlightening" Dr. Richard Jamison, Director, Productivity Enhancement, Rutherford NJ Psychological Resource Center
"Powerful and Life-changing" Don Adams, President, Psychological Resource Center, Cary NC 
Hope Counseling
"Excellent" Antoinette Michaels, Hope Counseling, Sayville NY Let's Connect
