At last we have tools for change!
“Note: This book is about men changing because I have never seen a woman, who is truly abusive to her mate, change.” —Patricia
From the world’s most acclaimed expert on verbal abuse comes the first book that answers the question foremost in every woman’s mind: can he really change?
Combining practical applications with the latest clinical research with the trademark support and assurance of Evans, The Verbally Abusive Man: Can He change? shows victims of verbal abuse how to empower themselves, improve their relationships, and change their lives for the better.
- Verbal abuse creates a pretend world
- Verbal abuse ostracizes its victims and isolates them
- Verbal abuse denigrates and diminishes human beings
- Verbal abuse invades a person’s inner world and self-definition
- Verbal abuse is kept hidden and seldom discussed
- Verbal abuse may seem normal to some
- Verbal abuse coerces people to protect perpetrators
Without men willing to change we would have no change in the world. Men can find out what to do if they have the verbal abuse problem.
The verbally abusive man often has an ‘inside’ self and an ‘outside’ self. He shows one self to the world. This is the persona or image that he made up from the outside in. It is his ‘outside’ self.
His ‘inside’ self is the one that appears when the world is shut out. Then it is just him and him in you, so to speak. As if there is only one mind, his, in the room and so of course he knows what you are, what you are ‘trying to do’ and even how sensitive you are.
“This book was so very helpful to me. I sometimes had to put it down, because there were things I was living in my marriage displayed in the book, and it made me emotional. I am so glad I read through the book. It helped me work through my emotions and decisions. The “agreement” is a useful tool for couples who may want to remain together. It equips you to make a better informed decision on whether to stay or leave an emotionally abusive man.”
“I gave this 5 stars because it is a breakthrough book with a novel understanding of the subject.”