1.
Your mate seems irritated or angry with you several times a week or more
and you don't know why. If you ask why, your mate says s/he’s not mad or
that in some way that it’s your fault.
Yes NO
2. When you feel hurt and try to discuss the incident that bothers you with
your mate, you don’t feel as if the issue has been full resolved, so you
don’t feel happy and relieved, nor do you have a feeling that you’ve “kissed
and made up.” (Your mate says, “You’re just trying to start and argument!” or
in some other way expresses a refusal to discuss the situation.)
Yes NO
3. You frequently feel perplexed and frustrated by your mate's responses
because you can't get your mate to understand your intentions.
Yes NO
4. You are upset not so much about concrete issues—how much time to spend
with each other, where to go on vaction, etc.—as about the communication in
the relationship: what your mate thinks was said vs. what you said and heard.
Yes NO
5. You sometimes wonder, "Why do I feel so bad.”
Yes NO
6 Your mate rarely, if ever, seems to want to share thoughts or plans with
you.
Yes NO
If you agreed with two or more of the following statements, you may be in a
verbally abusive relationship.
