BOOK REVIEW
“...I consider your genuine blockbuster, "Controlling People," to be probably the single greatest Grande Synthesis I have yet seen. And I have seen hundreds of hundreds of ambitious but partial attempts at this over my 75 years. Human kind urgently needs this, both on an individual and a collective level. Nothing else seems to be working very effectively. “ —Dr. David L. Quinby Professor, Emeritus Dept. of Psychology, Youngstown
This book explains the heretofore inexplicable behavior of people who try to control people.
Enter The Controller’s Realm And Find Out...
* How people become controlling.
* Why controllers target only certain people.
* Why controllers drive away the people they want to be closest to.
* Why controllers often get the opposite of what they want.
* Why most controllers appear to be nice normal people.
* What the controller fears most?
* Why controllers seem to be under the influence of a spell.
* How the “spell’s” influence can be broken.
* How someone can be a spell breaker.
* How someone could be under a controller’s influence and not know it.
* What controllers say about themselves.
Summary
Controlling People takes us on a journey through a maze of senseless behaviors woven into our world. We discover the words and incantations that produce a controller's spellbound behavior. And, we find out how to fend off any controller's attempts to control us.
Based on thousands of cases, CONTROLLING PEOPLE reveals how controllers struggle to shape the lives of others. We’ll discover the forces that compel them and why they, as if under a spell, often destroy the relationships that they want most to preserve. We’ll see for the first time the processes that shape them and most important, we’ll find out what controllers are really trying to do. We’ll know why, when they tell others who and what they are—what they think and feel, and even their motives, controllers don’t realize the senselessness of their own behavior. Lastly we’ll meet some formerly spellbound controllers and find out what they have to say about themselves.
Readers Praise—What people are saying about "Controlling People"
"I feel a compelling force to tell you that I consider your genuine blockbuster--Controlling People__to be probably the single greatest 'grande synthesis' I have yet seen. And I have seen hundreds of hundreds of ambitious but partial attempts at this over my 75 years.
I passionately hope you can persuade your publisher to give this gem the widest possible publicity among both lay and professional audiences. Human kind urgently needs this, both on an individual and a collective level. Nothing else seems to be working very effectively. " — David L. Quinby (Professor Emeritus Youngstown State University, Youngstown, Ohio.)
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"I finished reading the
book . It really brings back a lot of stuff that I
endured growing up and talks about something, that
until recently, no one even believed existed,
Defining people. For years, while I was growing up,
I tried explaining exactly the same things that you
describe in your book, to psychologists and social
workers, that all told me, that I was imagining
things and that I was trying to start trouble. Your
latest book, is the first, that actually describes
in detail what an abuser actually does and how they
think."
—Anonymous Male
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"Your new book,
Controlling People, arrived several days ago and I
have been burning the midnight oil, reading every
word voraciously and making notations throughout. I
greatly appreciate what you have done, Patricia, in
piecing this perplexing problem together in the way
that you have. "The Strangest Paradox" and the
"True Connection" chapters really captivated me."
—A Woman Reader
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"I want to tell you
that I thought I knew what control was about--that
you wouldn’t have much new to tell me--I’d read
your books so many times. But, oh, you blew my
mind. Now I finally know what was wrong. Do you
know what that means to me? I can’t begin to tell
you.
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For years I couldn’t
understand why he’d look through me or walk away
when I was talking, or put me down and say it was
just teasing. I’d have spent my life wondering."
—From the book: "Afterword"